Monday, October 20, 2008

I Think the Rolling Stones Said it Best....

You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometime, you just might find, you get what you need.
Is this true?
I have gone through my entire life expecting to get every little thing that I want. It was easy as a kid. Ask my brothers. They love to tell you how easy it was for me, how I never had to do anything I didn't want to, how all I had to do was ask and it was mine. Never had to rake leaves, blah blah blah. Listen, you are the youngest, with three older brothers, that's just the way it goes. I mean come on, if you're the fourth kid and there are already three boys, someone wanted a girl. So isn't it that girls right to be handed everything on a silver platter? I say yes. Some may beg to differ, to each his own. Write it on your own blog baby. Birth order. Wow, right? It makes a difference. I married an oldest child. My husband has two younger sisters. He had to work for everything. Not everything was just handed to him ( a lot was though, by his grandparents, don't let him fool you). But in his home, he was the oldest. There's a big difference. The oldest is usually the over achiever. It's just how it is. The youngest, like yours truly, sometimes is more laid back. More willing to hand over the reigns to the other guy. I see this on a daily basis with my own two kids. Saige will slave away for hours on her homework. Chase will explain to me how his teacher decided to "give him a break today," and then go play baseball with his friends. I am impressed by her work ethic and his ability to buck the system.
Okay, since I started to write this I decided to do a little research, although, to be honest I usually just write the most inane dribble that flows off the top of my head. I'm actually working for this, cause, well, really, I have nothing else to say, at any rate the first born tend to be more conscientiouness, but us last born are more agreeable. We tend to be funnier, more of a chance of us being a comic.... huh, how 'bout that? Also, it seems the last born tend to be more of a risk taker. That's interesting, right? Think, sky diving. Although middle children seem to be somewhat of a mystery to the "man", the people that do these studies. So, if I think about it in terms of my family, my oldest brother Scott (who you will never hear from on here) will never go sky diving, I will.... cause I'm the youngest, and Mark and Chris (MarkNYC and brother Chris) well, there's a chance. Interesting. What happens though when it is a family of "half" brothers and sisters, like it is in mine? I'm always looking for a reason. Why? Why are things the way they are? Why do we do the things we do? Nature vs. Nuture. One of my favorite topics. Well, you know, besides Obama vs. McCain. Just kidding. I think that's just a done deal.
So the point, I'm always trying to get back to the point, because you see, I am the last born, my mind wanders, I don't care what anyone else thinks, I do what I want, I expect it all. Did you know that Voltaire and Mark Twain were the youngest in their families? That is the company I keep.
So maybe Mick didn't say it best, maybe you should just expect the best and the best will happen. I'm the youngest, I can change my mind.
Where do you fall in line?
Okay, only because I am youngest am I posting this. Because Rachel (also the youngest) made me watch it. And for some reason we just howled with laughter the whole time, I think, cause in human years, we are almost 12. WARNING: MOM , DON"T WATCH IT!!!! TOTALLY INAPPROPRIATE. Sorry...


Kathy S. said...

Here's a surprise: Oldest. (could my personallity be any more predictable?)

MarkNYC said...

I think birth order has a huge impact, particularly in our family. Just look at Scott and Alexander, both first-borns who take after their fathers. Then look at myself and Joseph, both a bit more creative. Then, you and Alaina, both free-spirited. Not sure about Christopher, and what it means to be the third-born boy, but it seems to me that he is a mix of Dad's intelligence, Scott's tenacity, and my sensitivity. I guess it makes sense that he would pick up something from each of the three prominent males in his life. He also seemed to pick up his mother's sense of curiosity about life. No wonder he's the most normal one; he's better balanced than the rest of us. Anyway, on to more important things... wish I was Sarah Silverman. Holla.

Sue Jacquette said...

Alfred Adler would be so proud. You should read up on his theories. They still hold up 100 years later. We've talked about this... I'm the oldest and so is Jason. We're a couple of boring overachievers!

Sue Jacquette said...

BTW, first borns are said to have higher IQ's.... I'm just sayin.

Kathy S. said...

Sue, your last comment is so insightful.

Rachel said...

Mark, I couldn't agree with you more. He's so hot. Sue, if you read this, I've been trying to send you a treat for 3 days now. I'm over it! I totally think that you're on to something with this Amy. I'm the youngest of four too. Hmmmm, is that what you had said? Is that why we share the same rediculous humor? Yes!!!, Bon Qui Qui. I had no idea that it was some scientific thing that came from our birthing order. I thought, no offense, that we just had a few screws lose. It doesn't really phase me either way. Birth order, retarted, whatever, all I know is we have a really great time. Perhaps our time spent together is more fun than some people have in an entire life time. So I really appreciate our parents for saving the best for last, sorry Mark. At least mine did one thing right. Holla Back!

Meredith said...

Well, I'm the oldest so I sorta buck the theory. If you read our life stories...without knowing our ages...I'm fairly certain that people would assume my younger brother was actually the oldest sibling. He is the overachiever...I'm a classic underachiever. Well, it works for us!

Lisa Samuel said...

being the firstborn, I graduated in 3.5 years from college, just marinated chicken so my wonderful husband will have dinner while I go to the gym for some crazy dirty fighting class with amy(the fourth child)who talked me into. Humm... we may be onto something-

Lula! said...

Oldest. No surprise there.

And have you seen Jimmy Kimmel's version? "I'm *&#&ing Ben Affleck" with all the famous back-up singers in it? Actors,'s HILARIOUS!

As are you.

Amy said...

Kathy, Now I wouldn't have guessed that!! Wink wink.

Mark-So you are admitting Chris is the most normal? Interesting. And I'm sorry, have you seen my dancers pose? I"m the best balanced!!!

You guys be smart, I'll keep the party going. Deal?

Rachel, Rachel, Rachel- You're right, no matter how you slice it, we have fun. Even when we're at work, in meetings, it's all fun. I'm thinking it might be a 50/50- birth order/loose screws.

Meredith, No wonder I like you. I am also, the classic under achiever. Never quite worked up to my potential. Get that wing suit out! That'll learn 'em.

Lula-I love Jimmy's rebuttal, I thought it might put my mom over the edge. I wanted to post it though, maybe tomorrow.
You rock too!