Monday, March 9, 2009

Great Expectations

The Sun never says to the earth, you owe me. Look what happens with a love like lights up the whole sky. - Hafiz

Right? Come on. How much do you love this?

I just saw this somewhere yesterday and it was funny because I had been having this conversation with a really good friend of mine just that morning. She said, "Do I expect to much out of people?"
I had to answer her honestly. I said, "Yes. You do."

She is one of the most wonderful people I know. No matter what is going on in her life she is always there for anyone. The problem is she is such a great person but her expectations of others are very high. We have been talking about the same person in her life now for almost two years. The relationship is never what she wants it to be. She has repeated over and over again, "I gave this and this and this. I got nothing."
I truly believe you need to put out the best you can be. Every day. All day. For yourself. Cause that's who you are. You can't expect anything back. Of course, you don't want relationships to be one sided, right? You have to know when to say when. Except when you start expecting people to act or do certain ways or things because you do, you might get disappointed. That's just what I think.
The only thing who you know is going to love you no matter what is your dog and your God (whoever that might be) or Higher power or just your dog if you don't fly that way. Short of that, you've only got yourself. You can only control what you put out there. Make it good. Then get yourself a dog if you don't have one. :)
I'm adding a quote Sue sent to me today too. Cause I like it. It makes me think of you guys.
What a wretched lot of old shrivelled creatures we shall be by-and-by. Never mind--the uglier we get in the eyes of others, the lovelier we shall be to each other; that has always been my firm faith about friendship. - George Eliot


Lula! said...

"firm faith about friendship..." wow, loved that quote, especially the final part.

I have great expectations, too. Therefore, I get let down a lot. I admit it. Sigh...

Beth said...

I too have great expectations. And maybe it's a result of being walked on too many times that I feel strong enough, now, to say NO, that's not what I expect.

I think it's a very fine line between expecting to be treated like you deserve and be disappointed when people don't meet *your* expectations. It's tricky!

Great post. Made me think.

Simple Answer said...

Fab friendship quote! might be my very favoritest!